The children grow

Rely on self-regulatory capacity of the child.

Parents tend to press or hurry children to pass into stages were they have not yet matured. Often times they have the following questions roaming their heads:  how long will it take for them to be out of diapers? Will they always sleep with us? How long will they need to be held? How long do the temper tantrums last? How long will they need me?

To educate and take care our kids requires our altruistic capability, hard work and selfless commitment, which then can leave a parent feeling burdened, overwhelmed, confused, and guilty. However, as parents we should not push the children to mature faster than needed.  On the contrary, this only provokes imprints, impacting their psychological and emotional health in the present and future.

In observing the clues the kids give to parents, they can assess the situations with respectful and conscious approach and better connect with the children.   "The child is right", says author Naomi Aldort.  It is the child who tells us when is the right time to sleep without us, to stop using diapers, etc.  Sometimes the children show to be ready and assume a role or autonomy behavior and parents (especially the mother) do not accept it for fear of losing control. Extremes meet. Don’t push or delay. Balance is the middle path.  

Source: KNOW MY WORLD. Berna Iskandar